I'm a little annoyed and hurt?

I'm sure it's just being petty and silly, but would this annoy/hurt anyone else; Your wife goes to a children's club and shows them how to make flowers from tissue paper, pipe cleaners, etc. On the way home she has to pick something up from her best guy friend and proceeds to give him the demonstration flower she made. I know it's a meaningless paper flower, but if it occurs to you to give it to someone rather than just bin it, shouldn't hubby come to mind first? :-(

I'm a little annoyed and hurt?
maybe she felt that hubby wouldn't want to see it...it could be that hubby didn't express any interest in what she was doing so she decided not to bug hubby with it and the best guy friend seemed more interested in it...in other words show the wife that you care about what she's doing
Reply:It does seem a bit silly doesnt it?, but it isnt an unrealistic feeling. I understand cos I have had similar moments.


Great Q !!!


The reality depends upon how one looks at the wider picture.


I carve with bone much as one sits with knitting.


When I have finished a piece, I usually give it away to someone, but it depends on the moment,and my mood of the time.


A day of children at their best sensitises me to acts of kindness. I give sponteneously from my own efforts. If a child is drawn to one of my carvings I give it. Sometimes I say to a piece. " The first person who sincerely admires this carving I am wearing shall have it" It is a feelgood.


There is no rhyme or reason in the way I give, I am as childlike as the children who inspire me when I am around them and they are happy. It is contageous.


So in the continuum of a creative day she stops off at a friends house and the friend genuinelly expresses appreciation to the weaver and the flower seems to say "this is where I belong" so the weaver gives the friend her flower in the tradition of art and creativity.


You have the weaver.


It never was an offence.
Reply:You need to tell her that.


You are feeling jealous and this is a great sign because your relationship needs fine tuning.


She probably didn't see any harm in doing what she did. Tell her that you would have liked to have received the flower.





Good luck
Reply:I'm sure if she had known this would hurt you, she'd never have done it.


It would never occur to me that my husband would actually want a paper flower.


I think there are deeper issues here - you're very insecure.
Reply:My first husband could give a continental what his daughter made at school and never did show any interest what so ever and it would of been scrunched up and thrown in the bin by him, if it was given to him. You need to say things to your wife like " Oh what a shame I didn't get to see it, as it would of been interesting to see what the children can make". But most ladies just don't think the male will be interested in these things, that all.
Reply:i wouldn't think anything of this.





to her i'm sure it was nothing more than what it is-just a paper flower craft. i don't think there was any meaning behind it.





i know that for my boyfriend-he'd find it kind of silly if I gave him a paper flower (sweet yes but silly). I gave him a stuffed cocker spaniel for christmas (the dog we want eventually) and he thought it was kind of funny-some guys are weird about that.





don't over-analyze things (i'm bad about this) it can turn a situation into something it really isn't. ever heard the saying "it is what it is" think about that and i'm sure you'll feel better.





besides-the only way you knew she gave it to him was she told you right?!! nothing to worry about then....
Reply:maybe she didn't think it would be appropriate to give to you....she must of thought its just a silly paper one....talk to her and tell her how you feel...open up, its the best way
Reply:Oh please! You're talking about her showing someone how to make a paper flower. It's not like she took off her underware and told him, "Take me Loverboy! I'm all yours!!"
Reply:Didn't she vow to put you before all other men when you were married?
Reply:No big deal ! Ask her, to make you a special "paper flower" and she will show you hers, and you show her yours !!
Reply:I want one of those! :)
Reply:Gee, maybe you stopped noticing a long time ago. She is crying out look what I can do, and you think her actions are 'petty and silly'. She would rather have an audience of those people who at least pretend to enjoy what she is doing. Your really into her every action and how it makes you feel, but not what she feels.
Reply:Not necessarily. It depends on whom she loves.
Reply:I think it would bother me..
Reply:You should be more secure in your feelings.. Get her flowers, and then tell her that you just wanted to prove to yourself that you are prettier than these flowers!
Reply:You are not petty or silly. She as a wife had been inconsiderate of your feeling but its a small matter.





You love her so trust her and forget the whole matter.... She maybe a little bit inconsiderate but she is just being kind to her so called best guy friend.. :)
Reply:I agree that maybe she didn't know u would care to have the flower. You should definitely bring that to her attention, but do not accuse her because maybe she did think of u first and figured u didnt want it.
Reply:Yes it is petty so grow up.
Reply:aw, I'm sorry, she probably didnt mean anything by it. y dont u get her real flowers...or try and make one like she did on your own-that may flatter her a little:) she'll probably be pleased that you took an interest in her little hobby. good luck to you baby doll!
Reply:Yes, you have a right to be hurt. She thought of giving this "Hand Made" flower to someone other then her husband. That is wrong, you should always be the first thought that pops into her mind.





Sometimes, woman and I mean sometimes woman make the assumption that we know we are loved, attractive and wanted. But just like women, men want to be treated special and put up on a pedistal tool . We want to hear the words, see that attention.





Be open and honest with her about how those actions hurt your feelings. If you don't do that, then you may begin to question the relatonship with this guy friend. That distrsturt will destroy your marriage.





How would she have reacted if you did the same thing but with one of you lady friends.